Abortion: Steps Toward Healing After an Abortion ...

•  Know that the road to complete recovery can take time and effort. God's forgiveness can be had instantly, but sorting out your life and your feelings can take time

•  Know that it is normal and good to mourn the loss of your child. In the case of abortion, the mourning process is often cut short and never completed because of denial, secrecy, or feelings of guilt which block the mourning process. You must allow yourself to go back and experience the complete mourning process. Accept your grief as normal rather than as something that must be covered up or pushed aside.   Recognize that the pain of your loss will fade as your healing unfolds.

•  Know that you are not alone. Others have gone through the same experiences and pain. They can understand and help you.  

•  Admit your personal responsibility but also recognize that others, too, were involved.   Pray for God's forgiveness for both yourself and everyone else that either encouraged the abortion or failed to help you avoid one.

•  Forgive yourself. You don't have to be held captive in your pain and guilt.

•  Forgive others. Know that they, too, may have acted out of ignorance, fear, or human selfishness. If possible, let them know that you forgive them. Forgive the abortion providers.

•  Give your child over to the care of God, the true Parent of us all. Know that your child is loved, happy, and well-cared for. Your child does not condemn you because he or she live in the love and mercy of Christ. Do not try to hold onto the child by prolonging your grief; hold onto him or her by sharing their happiness in heaven.  

•  Know that a lot of women (and men) will seek and receive help this year; you can be one of them. Please contact us at phone or e-mail. Ware about you and want to help.